There is a renewal of our lives (our purpose, our hope and motivation) when we understand who we really are. This is not an easy process as we’ve learned from a young age that we need to do certain things to be accepted. This is especially true if our primary caregivers abused or neglected us or we felt rejected and abandoned. One of the hardest things for us to really believe is that we are human beings and not human doings. Our worth comes from WHO we are and not what we’re DOING or what we’ve DONE. And we ultimately don’t know WHO we are until we know WHOSE we are. As children of God, our worth and value is already set which makes us bulletproof. If we have the certain knowledge that we can’t be less than or not good enough than we are safe to be honest, to be vulnerable, and to really understand others. This confidence in how our story ends gives purpose to our lives. The truth really will set us free!
Of course, accomplishing this is easier said than done, but once we engage in consistently positive and honest thoughts and actions we’ll come to know our real selves. This is only accomplished when we spend time with sources of unconditional love, and for many people this disqualifies other people based on past experiences. It’s our Higher Power that is the best source of this love and the more time we spend in His presence by our thoughts and actions the more we’ll come to understand our own self-worth.
Get started on this process and your life will be renewed!
We are often unaware of how our deep-seeded beliefs affect our everyday, present feelings. If as a child, for example, your mother told you not to go outside without any clothes on, you might have interpreted that to mean that something is wrong with your body. As children we receive hundreds of messages like this growing up! It's no wonder that we often feel not good enough and believe we may not be lovable unless we're somehow perfect.
This belief then settled into your subconscious where it quietly and subtly affects your present-moment thoughts. While you don't consciously think "I'm not good enough", you do approach a situation with a filter that interprets what happens. Remember, we don't see the world as it is, but as we are. So we let messages that conform to this belief through our filter and reject messages that don't conform. If someone is upset at us, we may default to feeling less than. If, however, someone loves us and supports us, we may reject that and stay isolated from them.
Understanding our deep-seeded beliefs are necessary to change them. But the good news is, that we can! Our brains are extremely adaptable and do a wonderful job of conforming to what we consistently think about. Hence the importance of 1) being aware of our beliefs and thoughts and 2) taking consistent steps to change them.
Get started on this process and you'll see life transform!
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