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A vital skill to strengthening relationships is empathy skills building or listening for understanding. There are 4 qualities of empathy: perspective taking, staying out of judgment, recognizing emotion in other people and communicating that emotion. Use this template to identify what works and what doesn’t!
1.To begin, one spouse either picks some emotions they’re feeling that are relevant OR shares emotion from an issue they are having
2.Their partner learns more about how they’re feeling by picking one of their emotions and asks to hear more about it following these guidelines:
5.Problem solve ONLY IF NECESSARY, with their permission! Do not problem solve before this step.
Then switch roles and start over with the other spouse. Do this at least 4-5 times weekly, setting time aside so you are not interrupted. Make sure you are touching while you have this conversation (non-sexual)