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It’s surprising how much of what happens in our life is tied back to our core belief of who we really are. We are constantly making meaning out of what’s happening, from what a loved one says to us to how other people drive in traffic. Unfortunately, this meaning making is often a subconscious process – we think the way we subconsciously believe, and this goes back to whether or not we believe we’re good enough.
In essence, we are either human doings or human beings. In other words, we either believe our worth and value is tied to what we do (or don’t do) or it’s tied to who we are. If tied to what we do, how we look, how we act, or sound, or our bank accounts, etc., we often fail to meet other’s expectations and these feelings of failure can define us. We’ll never measure up to all the expectations we have which means we’re never good enough – not for our spouse, our family, our company, our church, and the list goes on and on. These feelings then loop, reaffirming our faulty belief in our low self-worth by influencing all of our future thoughts and feelings. While we don’t know all of our thoughts in a given day (60,000+!), we do know how we feel. This is the window into our beliefs, whether they are good or bad.
If you spend most of your time not feeling good, challenge your subconscious faulty core beliefs by affirming who you are – as a child of God whose value does not depend on action. You are worth 100% now and forever, the same as the day you were born. Our decisions affect our quality of life, but they do not affect our worth. We are bulletproof. And if we understand this, we are free to choose how to respond to life’s difficulties instead of being forced to numb or escape the pain of not being good enough. But this is a message we’ll need to consistently affirm for it to find root and take hold.
You can make a change – don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself!